When it comes to being kind to children, what we say holds a lot of power. Our words, even slightly tweaked, can make a word of difference. By thinking about what we are saying and being aware of how children will receive the message, we can help them improve their self-esteem, boost their self-confidence, and inspire them to pursue their passions in order to find their true self. These kind words may just be short sentences, but they hold very powerful messages.
1. Your opinions matter.
Letting your child know that their opinions are powerful can help them build the confidence they need to always share their feelings. This helps them understand that their thoughts are powerful and their voice is heard and worth using in every situation.
2. You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing.
Children can easily become consumed by the desire to be “perfect” and avoid failure. This unrealistic thinking can make children anxious and place them under undue stress. Saying this phrase helps them realize that there’s more to being a good person/student/friend than doing things an exact way.
3. I’m thankful for you.
Your children likely hear you tell them that you love them frequently. While sharing your love is certainly important, letting them know that you are thankful for them can be even more powerful at times. It’s a phrase they likely don’t hear all the time so it makes them pause and think about the message and what kind of joy and love they truly bring you just by being themselves.
4. Your words are meaningful.
When you let children know that their words have power, it helps them learn to choose their words more wisely. It also helps them understand that you are truly listening to what they have to say and hearing the messages they’re trying to deliver.
5. I learn new things from you everyday.
Teaching a lesson is often the best way to learn. While your child might not intentionally be teaching you any lessons, this phrase can help them see that their actions and interpretation of the world around them is powerful and setting an example for the people around them – adults included.
6. This family wouldn’t be the same without you.
Help your child understand that your family is a puzzle and without them, the puzzle wouldn’t be complete. This helps them foster a sense of belonging and solidify their role and importance within your family structure.
7. We all make mistakes.
As children make mistakes, they must learn how to adapt and manage the strong emotions that can come with it. Letting them know that everyone makes mistakes, parents included, helps normalize it and allows them to learn from each mistake, becoming more resilient each time.
8. You have great ideas.
Supporting their ideas and encouraging their creativity helps children build the confidence they need to fearlessly pursue innovation.
9. Let’s try it your way.
Learning through trial and error is a crucial part of growing. Saying this phrase enables children to explore their ideas and learn through trial and error in a safe environment as you follow their lead but remain by their side.
10. Never be afraid to be yourself and be proud of who you are.
Children of all ages often feel compelled to conform to the masses. When this doesn’t come easily to them, they can feel isolated and ostracized. Encouraging them to embrace who they are and be proud of it helps them build the confidence and self-esteem necessary to live happily and independently, seeking validation only from their own true happiness.